Today's #Storyofchange features Varinder Gill as our #Humansofchange. Here what she has to share about her moments of change in her life.
Varinder (better known as V) was a high flying finance professional before she decided to take a career break to find herself. She now runs her own company in Singapore creating meaningful numbers to drive young companies forward. She roasts coffee in her free time :)
1. What major change has happened in your life?
One, I chose to leave my marriage.
2. What happened during this period of change?
I reached a point where as 2 people, we were functioning even less than 1 person together. We had tried various things but it did not work. I knew I was capable of much more on my own and him on his own but my Asian background prevented me from making that move ie leaving a much revered institution. This decision to leave him hurt me a lot as I was a great believer in 1 marriage. After all I took some serious vows... but I chose to live, and not uphold the institution.
3. How did you navigate yourself out of this change period? (Any tools, resources and advice that you may have used or read)
I chose to leave the UK and move to Singapore. I thought the sunny weather, the social life and the traveling would be just what I needed. But I followed my intuition and spoke with a psychic too :). I also begun volunteering to teach art to autistic kids at VSA, a charity in Singapore. The kids there have healed me like no one else. Their determination to live, their creativity, the love of their parents, the love of the teachers... Only 2 hrs a week but it healed me.
4. Has the change impacted the way you approached life and work today?
Absolutely. I have started to listen to my intuition like never before. Much more so than anything I have read or come across. So much so that when I make a decision now, I end up finding articles etc very quickly after that support my decision. I know that I can create my life just as I want. I've also stopped focusing on the outcome. I live in ultimate freedom to practise my ideas.
5. What one thing do you wish you had during this time - or what one thing was missing during this time that could have helped you?
Nothing, it's as though the moment I chose to leave I had everything I needed...
6. What are your 3 main take aways from this change period?
1. That only you know what's best for you. No blog, book, family member or anyone else is more powerful than your ability to make a decision and make the best of it.
2. To love yourself sooooo much. Today I love every wrinkle, every curve and every ache in myself too it's all there to teach me something.
3. That there is nothing wrong on failing in the age of experiences,
7. What one piece of advice would you give to someone going through a similar point in their lives?
Ask yourself if you truly loved yourself, what would you do.
8. If your change could be represented by a colour, what would it be?