From Workaholism to Lifaholism

Tonight kicks off a brand new theme and series for the month of June - WELLBEING.

 

This is such a big and super important topic for everyone and anyone who wants to thrive in life + work. And even though most of us know that already, most people still struggle to make wellbeing a priority + focus + conscious effort in everyday life. Our hope is that this month’s series will help to remind you..

  • WHY your wellbeing needs to be your #1 priority
  • WHAT aspects of your life + work directly impact your wellbeing
  • HOW you can start to implement our best tips + practices + daily rituals to ensure your mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing in order to thrive and succeed in your life + work​

WHY BEING A WORKAHOLIC IS KILLING YOUR WELLBEING

No one ever died saying they wish they had spent more time working. What most people wish is that they had spent more time with the people they love.
Common misconception: Workaholic = Getting ahead in your career. 

There is a fine line between working hard out of love and passion for your work and being a workaholic. Ask yourself:

Is the time you’re spending at work interfering with other areas of your life?
Is it hurting your relationships?
Is the stress causing you physical or mental wellbeing problems?
Are you happy?
Are you fulfilled?

Truth: Workaholic = The road to complete burnout + misery.

Most people who are workaholics don’t even realise it. Ask yourself:
Do you always work long hours?
Do you struggle to stop thinking about work when you’re away from the office?
Is work just a means to a paycheck?

Workaholism is real. It’s the reason why employee engagement has become such a big issue - globally - but especially in places like the US or Japan (where there is actually a word for “death by overwork” - ‘Karoshi’)

As with any addiction, the road to recovery starts with admitting you have a problem. Everyone is different, but there are some common driving factors…

Workaholism makes us feel important. We get noticed, we feel special, we believe that it will earn us a raise / promotion / some kind of distinction.

Workaholism distracts us from other problems in our life. It’s easier to immerse yourself in work and tasks

than to deal with unhappy spouses / kids / other issues.

If these reasons resonate with you, here’s what you need to do:


Decide that your work is (a big) part of life, not the other way around.

It’s something we always say at TCS but it’s one of those things we always hear - and probably already know deep down - but when we look more carefully at our lives, we start to notice that our day-to-day attitudes + choices don’t always reflect this understanding.

When we start to see that work is just one part of life, you realise that you also need to find satisfaction in your family, your leisure time, your community,
your creativity, spirituality, or personal development.

The road to recovery from Workaholism begins when you recognise that you are SO much more than your salary bracket, job title, key responsibilities, or the size of the team you manage at your company. Your value and worth and WELLBEING are also about…

The quality of your relationships and who you surround yourself with
The quality of the role you play in other areas of your life
The quality of your habits when it comes to learning, personal development, or self-care

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A LIFEAHOLIC?
Wikipedia definition: person who is passionate about making the most of life.

Ayelet’s definition in the Huffington Post: 21st Century abundance mindset (versus ‘workaholic’ - 20th Century scarcity mindset)...

“You can be addicted to playing a role in someone else’s story by keeping up or you can write, direct and star in your own life story. It’s a choice”

The Change School definition: giving yourself permission to think + act in accordance with who you are and what you want… then being bold enough to go out there and create it.

It is a process =
Self-awareness (deciding who you are + what you believe + what you want out of life)
+ Self-discovery (being a student of life which means trying + experiencing + growing)
+ Self-actualisation (achieving your potential in your work + relationships + wellbeing)

To do these things, you need to create OPPORTUNITIES to reflect, discover and create.

“Happiness is a by-product of creativity. You need to either create something or discover something. Either bring your potential to actuality or go inwards to find yourself, but do something with your freedom.” - Osho

To me, it’s the notion of freedom that social conditioning is slowly but surely ruining for us. Most of us feel all but free in our daily lives - with roles + responsibilities, bills to pay, mouths to feed (in some cases), and the list goes on…

But we all hit pivotal moments in our lives - and it’s personal for everyone. It could be a career burnout or other health condition; something negative to do with your personal relationships; it could be a big life change like becoming a parent… whatever it is, whenever it happens…

It is precisely in those moments that you start to re-assess your life, the world around you, and choices you need to make.

At The Change School, being a lifeaholic is recognising that in every moment of life we always have a choice…. How we’re spending our time, Who we’re spending it with, What we’re creating and sharing with others, Whether we’re serving and being kind to ourselves…

We are all a work in progress (these are things we’re currently working on ourselves!). Being a lifeaholic starts with taking ownership of our lives and the experiences we have. It’s about bringing more awareness and conscious ACTION to our ...

Relationships - through tribe building, creating new and meaningful connections, nurturing the relationships we have and value, driving important conversations (in the real world, not just the virtual one!)

Growth - by getting out of our comfort zone, seeking out new and challenging experiences, learning new things, trying new things, and creating new things!

Wellbeing - through self-love, self-care, indulging in our favourite creative activities, exercising, socialising, resting, taking time out for ourselves, nutrition, sleep … it’s not just about knowing these things but prioritising and implementing them.

[Personal Story] I consider myself both a Workaholic and Lifeaholic so my current journey is all about re-calibrating and prioritising my own sense of balance.  

Turning point = Burnout

Self-Awareness = workaholic + anxiety + stagnation = Energy depletion

Self-Discovery = (lacking) self-care + creativity + relationships = Fulfillment

Self-Actualisation = (my) Purpose + Power

 

TIPS FOR MAKING THE CHANGE

1. Map out your LIFE Priorities. Take an honest look at how your daily choices currently reflect on what’s most important to you. Our Change Planner is the best tool to help!

2. Make a list of things to STOP, START and CONTINUE doing. Develop better routines / practices / rituals for different parts of your life - e.g. staying active, better self-care, social / play time, family time, hobbies, personal development etc.

3. Learn to create boundaries. Leave work at home. Surround yourself by other Lifeaholics. Learn to say no - without feeling guilty, or the need to justify or explain why. If you don’t value your time, no one else will.

In the famous words of Warren Buffett:
The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.  

Always do the things that FULFILL you. Make time and manage your energy for the tasks, activities and people / relationships that make you feel good and do better.

Take TIME OUT. Learn to switch off and re-charge - and not just when you’re on holiday. It’s not just about escaping or checking out from your life, but taking time for yourself - to eat better, do more physical activities, get more rest… or do nothing!

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